As we settle into life at home again, all the other details of life start to come back into focus. Just the other day I realized that we had a nice yard outside that is rather enjoyable (not that the boys can enjoy it yet, but they will soon!). We have all greatly appreciated our own beds!!!!! It has been great to just get in our car and go; no more moving car seats in and out of taxi’s and shuttles.
There was the realization that we had two very overdue books from the library, oops! Also, that bill that was overlooked and not paid, eek! All things considered, there is very little that was missed while we were away for 19 days with our priorities and focus right where it should be…with Aaron in the hospital helping him to recover. Our focus needs to stay on things that last for eternity … people and the word of God. The books and the bills will get worked out and will fade away, thus they are not at the top of the priority list…but did need to be taken care of. Thankfully everyone was very understanding and forgiving.
We were finally able to give Aaron a real bath and not just a sponge bath. It was so much fun and he loved it!!! Aaron likes to stretch out and move his arms and legs and open his hands to extend his fingers; this is wonderful to watch because his first week of life his muscles were so tight and contracted due to the drugs he was exposed to that his arms never left his neck, his hands were in tight fists, his legs were pulled up over his belly, and his feet were tightly flexed. We are so thankful to our Heavenly Father for how much love He has poured out on Aaron and how He gently brought Aaron through withdrawals. When it is time to sleep, Aaron needs to be very tightly swaddled so that his hands can’t move. This is because his nervous system was so overwhelmed from the drugs that he can’t relax without the comforting pressure of being swaddled. If he is not swaddled he doesn’t settle into sleep and wakes up constantly. Aaron loves to be talked to and sang to. My favorite things so far are how he just loves to be in his Daddy’s arms & sleep on Daddy’s chest each evening, and when he is sleeping he will sometimes crack his eyes open and when he sees Ryan or I he closes his eyes and has a big grin! Oh how dearly we love him!!!!!!
The boys are still coughing, tired, and short of breath. They did sleep better last night than they had since getting sick! I can actually say they are getting better!! WHOOHOOO!!!! Aaron and Ryan are still free of illness and I am all better! Praise the Lord for healing and keeping us out of the hospital!! Our Father in Heaven is hearing your prayers, thank you for praying for us!!!
Adoption Status Update
On the day she was discharged, Aaron’s mother signed her consent papers. This means that she gave her consent to give Aaron to us and terminate her parental rights. She is still confident in her decision; it was comforting to hear her say to her father that it was all going to be o.k. because she picked a good family. What she has done for Aaron is very difficult, selfless, loving, and took great courage. Please continue to pray for her salvation! Intercede for her that she will find the transforming power of Christ so that she can be free from the darkness of her lifestyle and from her addictions!! Currently our attorney and her para-legal are diligently searching for a long-term rehab for Aaron’s mother to increase her length of sobriety and hopefully to overcome her addictions.
Since we have brought Aaron home and his mother signed the required legal paperwork, you may be thinking that our adoption is finished. It is not. There is still a chance that Aaron wouldn’t get to stay with us…
Aaron’s birth father is fighting against his birth mother’s decision of adoption and wants to keep Aaron. Unfortunately, he is not capable of parenting at this time. He does not have a job, a place to live, or a car and his source of income is selling illegal substances. We would be glad to see that Aaron’s father could be a Daddy to him and would want Aaron with him if that was the case. Since it is not, the safest and best option for Aaron is to be with us. I tell you this, not to speak against Aaron’s father, rather to inform you of the reality of our adoption. We are broken sinners just like Aaron’s parents; it is by the grace of God, the cleansing blood of Christ, and the transforming power of the Holy Spirit that we are better suited to be Aaron’s parents at this time. Our hope is that both of Aaron’s parents will be moved by his arrival to make changes in their lives so that they can be an active part of his life in the future.
Ephesians 6:12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Our battle is not against Aaron’s birth parents but for them. Our battle is against Satan who wants to hold these people in darkness and addiction while trapping Aaron there too.
Please join us in praying for Aaron everyday, that God would protect him and set him safely in our family forever. Also that Aaron’s birth mother and father would turn their hearts to God in repentance and receive His gift of salvation, allowing Him to set them free and transform them completely!
P.S. Before I finished writing this post, we received sad news. Aaron’s maternal grandfather had a sudden heart attack and passed away. One week they said goodbye to Aaron and the next week they said goodbye to their husband, father, and grandfather. Please pray for God to comfort them, bring them His peace, and strengthen them. Pray for additional protection and strength for Aaron’s birth mother, that the death of her father would not be a weakness or excuse to sink deeper into her addictions. Also pray for Aaron’s half-brother that the Lord would bring a strong Christian man into his life to fill the role of father for him.